Just that random girl with her typical girly mood swings.
~ Monday, July 7 ~
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Before you watch this video above, there are some things I do not understand and would like to put an end to it (for me, anyway):

  1. Sending text messages to people as if they were chat boxes.
    - Please don’t send me messages like this.
    - Okay?
    - There’s a wordcount on text boxes for a reason.
    - LOL.
    - All the pinging is going to give my phone a seizure.
    - Yep.

    Stop this nonsense.  I want full sentences.  Not one-worded shit.  It’s starting to annoy me.

  2. Making stupid comments on posts that can seem slightly offending or simply will piss me off because it sounds dumb and biased.
    You can post your opinion on videos or random posts I share, but don’t go commenting on my pictures if you don’t have anything nice to say.  If you think you’re hilarious and I’m not hitting like on/responding to your comment, you’re most likely not funny to me.  Just get off my Facebook/Twitter or whatever.

  3. Complaining to me.
    If you consider me your “friend,” don’t come to me with only problems.  Come to me with good news too.  What the hell is the point if you come to me with a problem but don’t tell me if it’s actually better or you made progress?  You might as well not just tell me.  On top of that, if you know what you’re doing is dumb (and you hear me also say what you’re doing is unreasonable), yet you continue to do that stupid thing anyway, don’t come to me at all.  I’m done helping you out.  You be wastin’ my time, bruh.

  4. Being lazy.
    You’re allowed to be lazy once in a while… if you earned it!  If you want something to happen (i.e. lose weight, gain weight, get a job, hope the Liberals win the election) and you’re too lazy to do anything about it, you have no right to complain because it’s your own fault.  Now, if you actually eat right and workout; or run around applying; or actually went out to vote for a party, and nothing is still working, then I understand your complaints.  Otherwise, the only moping you should be doing is scolding yourself: “Why the fuck didn’t I get my ass off the couch/bed and do this to try and make a change?”

Other than that, all is well.  Now please enjoy this pleasant video while I run off to dance to it at nearly 3:00 a.m..

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~ Saturday, July 5 ~
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~ Friday, July 4 ~
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Here’s my F*cking Middle Finger.

Time: 01:40 AM
Mood: Cranky/Tired.

…Tired of these expectations.

Women should be clean-shaven all over their body.
Men should puff out the hairy-ness of which they are proud.

Women with big busts, big butts and a small waist are hot.
Men with that triangular body are the definition of masculine.

A woman exposes a bit of her bra or wear shorts - she’s an easy target to be eyeballed while someone is mentally having sex with her.
A man exposes himself topless and he’s hot.

Women who are considered “fat” are sources of humour.
Fat men are considered the same way.

Certain races should act as they are stereotyped on television.
Certain sexualities should act flamboyant.

When a South Asian woman doesn’t get married before the age of 30, there is something wrong with her.
When a South Asian man doesn’t get married, he’s a failure to carry the name of the family.

We continue to hear these stereotypes; some mentioned here, and some I haven’t bothered mentioning, because I assure you, you’ve thought of your own.  These stereotypes are ridiculous and possibly degrading to many people who have to hear it from others.

People blame women for their style of provocative clothing to lure rapists.  That is true.  Sometimes.  But why is it a young woman wearing sweatpants and a baggy hoodie, hiding under her baseball cap, is also being eye-raped?

People blame men for their hormones to eyeball women in uncomfortable ways.  Yet, it’s not alright if other men eyeball their sister, mom, or girlfriend.  Why not relay that respect to these other women who feel violated from hungry stares?

Just as women who would be over protective over their brothers, fathers, and boyfriends - perhaps the way they dress can also prevent stares, just as they create them.

Walking up to someone and saying “you’re beautiful” or “you’re handsome” is more respectful than mentally stripping down someone and eyeing them without blinking until they feel uncomfortable.  And if you’re with a partner - that can be a bit hurtful.

There is always a back and forth for these rules and expectations.  Some rules apply, some rules don’t.

But here’s a middle finger to all these social expectations that caused women and men to feel degraded for their preferences;
that caused women and men to feel like they should fit into this “social norm” and struggle to get there;
that caused the women and men to feel violated from the hungry eyes of sexual flames;
that caused the women and men to feel like failures for not completing their expected goals;

Here is a fucking middle finger to every single person who hurt someone, brainwashed by these expectations, and attempting to change them for the worse than for their better.

I know there are more expectations you want to give a middle finger to.


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~ Thursday, April 10 ~
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Rant on Education while Half-Asleep

Have you ever been in a position where you can’t tell your loved ones how you feel and what you’re going through because even you’re not aware of it? This is my life almost on a weekly basis. But here’s one thing I can share with the world:

I really, really hate this current institution us “kids” grow up in that we call “school.”

School comes with new experiences and possibly more offers to our, hopefully, future career. To reach our dreams. I get it. We all learn something, which may help us plan our future. We meet new people, create a network, and form relationships. School’s great!

People graduate from high school or post secondary, reminisce, and say, “I miss high school” and “I miss university or college.” Well, whoop-dee-doo for enjoying your experience in school. Really. Good. For. You.

Here’s my middle finger.

No, not to you. To all the institutions that remind me of school. To all the institutions that are school. To all the schools that ruined my passions for things that I once enjoyed.

Yes, I actually liked physics.

I should have seen my hatred for school at the age of six as a sign to never continue. Just because I have education available to me, doesn’t mean I have to pursue it. I can use that thing called “freedom of choice” and stop.

I decided to go to university anyway. Why? So I can take my degree and beat the shit out of every family member or relative who said I couldn’t make it. I went to university to prove to myself that I’m not a complete idiot. I went to university to feel awesome that I’ll be the first person in my family to graduate from a post-secondary institution. Am I happy? Hell no!

With the series of stress and migraines that developed in the past two years, worsening, of course, I struggled to attend classes and have work completed. I tried. But did I regret forcing myself to do four consecutive years of school? Yes. And no one should ever do something that they’ll regret or that will make them suffer. Unless they’re that determined or their parents threatened to disown or kill them if they get anything lower than 99% in all their grades.

Fucking hardasses. Give your kid some freedom.

My blogs have not been funny. No. But it’s because everything is sour at the moment. I don’t really know what I want to do anymore. I’m probably going to be stuck at this part-time job until I crack under pressure and set something on fire.

Or maybe I’ll work late nights at some dump where drunk motherfuckers demand for drinks and smack each other’s asses after sneezing into their hands.  

Or maybe I will be that drunk motherfucker.

Or maybe I will be the angry barista who will serve your professional ass your coffee.

Or maybe I will end up getting fat and living with my parents until I’m 50 years old.

Or maybe I will actually do something with this one thing I have - writing.

The only thing I can do is write. It’s my company, my companion, and my release. But how long will that last?

I’m not sure how many people can relate to their hatred for the school system, where one is graded for their talents, practically being ranked. The grading system pretty much says, “This is the career you can pursue” and “Yeah, don’t bother pursuing this one.” On top of that, how often is anything hands-on? Majority of the time, our faces are stuck in books (but if you’re an English or History major… you have no choice). If someone practiced hands-on frequently on something they were interested, I’m sure they can improve that way.

I’m not saying all education isn’t hands-on. Some are, and I respect that. I just wish that there were more hands-on applications rather than constant, tedious textbooks with unnecessary big vocabulary.

My passion and soul has been completely sucked out in this world we call School. I’d rather have an education that is more hands-on rather than JUST textbook. But I guess it’s too late for me now.

I just can’t wait to graduate and never look inside a school ever again.

School is just not for everyone.


End rant.

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~ Saturday, March 22 ~
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When Women Strike.

I usually don’t rant about double/social standards and women’s rights, but lately, I’ve been noticing posts that really made me realize that these double standards are really getting on my nerves.

So recently Madonna posted a picture of her armpit hair:

Some people believe it’s photo edited. Some people cringe.  Some people applaud. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However, to those who cringe and bash a woman’s makeup-less face or body hair - a reminder that most of us humans naturally grow body hair and it has many advantages as well as disadvantages. Of course, there are people who don’t have to worry about body hair. Good for you!  I mean, how great would it be to not deal with that, right?

It’s cool if you’re uncomfortable with body hair and get rid of it, but don’t bash those who sometimes allow themselves to embrace natural aspects of being a human. Especially the women.

For the women (especially women who complain about double standards) who believe that a woman should be clean-shaven everywhere but her eyebrows, eyelashes and head hair, you’re just allowing social and double standards to be imposed further onto women.  For years now, women are expected to be the perfect mother, be the perfect housewife, have the perfect body (hairless and fit), have the perfect hair, to be smart, and blah blah blah… 

But hey - if you’re okay in living in such a lifestyle where the expectations begin to pressure you, go right ahead and give in. But while you succumb to these expectations, keep an open mind and note the double standards (i.e. why a male’s and child’s nipple is okay to show on television, but a woman’s is censored even though most babies were fed from that very nipple).  I’m sure many people don’t want to be a prisoner of these standards.  I say “many” because who knows - some people like that sort of thing. Y’know, being imprisoned.

End rant.

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~ Wednesday, March 12 ~
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To Our Beloved.

Mother Nature,

You gotta stop head-faking us with your +5s and the sudden -15s the very next day. I know you have some extreme PMS/menopausal issues because you’re very old and worn out by the pollution (our bad), but we can’t just experience all four seasons within March. It’s not good for anyone, even your precious animals and plants. Also, it is impolite to deceive your (fellow) inhabitants.  So give us a break already and end this snow!

Yours truly,

A very cold human.

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~ Thursday, February 13 ~
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Taco Intoxication.

J: “What DO you want to be? You take a lot of English courses.”
Me: “I wanted to be a novelist, b —”
J: “An OBELISK?!”
Me: “Yes… yes, that’s what I said.”
T: “That sounds like a body part. My OVULISK.”

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~ Sunday, January 26 ~
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causewecool:

spankmeagainplease:
Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.--------The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class."Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. My body is not your personal, sexual object. My body does not overshadow my character. My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. My body is not here to look “hot” for you.Next up is “Boys will be boys.”Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.


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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)




I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.



There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:
He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 
They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!
Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

causewecool:

spankmeagainplease:

Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.
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The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class.

"Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."

He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”

Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?

Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.

If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.

You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.

At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.

My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. 
My body is not your personal, sexual object. 
My body does not overshadow my character. 
My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. 
My body is not here to look “hot” for you.

Next up is “Boys will be boys.”

Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.

It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” 

Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.
Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.
Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.

Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.
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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)
I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”

I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.
He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? 

I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.

I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. 

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 

I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.

He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 

After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.
There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.”

They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!

Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

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They say you don’t get over someone until you find someone or something better. As humans, we don’t deal well with emptiness. Any empty space must be filled. Immediately. The pain of emptiness is too strong. It compels the victim to fill that place. A single moment with that empty spot causes excruciating pain. That’s why we run from distraction to distraction—and from attachment to attachment.
— Yasmin Mogahed (via perfect)

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~ Monday, January 6 ~
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usednapkin851 said: Hi usednapkin can you change your username cause I want to be a used napkin? Thanks

usednapkin:

Sorry dude, but I like this username as well. So I’m gonna have to say no. Your welcome.


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